My mum 1928 - 2009
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My mum 1928 - 2009
I'm not doing very well with words right now so here's a note my wife sent out via facebook on Thursday
Hello there,
Shawn asked me to send a note to a few of his nearest and dearest to let them know about his mother's situation. She's not well. As all of you know, she was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease about 11 years ago but has probably been living with it for about 15. Her condition has been in a slow decline all these years.
Last week, she fell out of bed in middle of the night and fractured a couple of her ribs. Unfortunately, the trauma made her condition much worse than it already was and she developed pneumonia.
She's in the hospital right now and doctors gave Shawn's dad a couple of options in her treatment: A) give her antibiotics for the pneumonia and she would have less than a 50% chance of recovering and even if she did get over the pneumonia, her condition would be much worse than before her fall; or B) do not give her antibiotics and let nature take its course, where she would probably pass away within a few days. The doctor recommended option B because her physical and mental state has deteriorated so much.
Needless to say, it was a difficult decision but Shawn's dad has had many years to think about it and with the help of his family, chose to go with the doctor's recommendation.
On the more positive side (if there is one), all the health professionals praised Shawn's dad for taking such good care of her for so long. He mainly did it on his own and she remained with him at home and was never institutionalized.
So... Shawn just wanted me to let you know in case you contact him or run into him that that's where his head is right now. He's currently at the hospital taking turns with his siblings being with parents.
I can let you all know if anything changes.
And so there were changes.
Her breathing became increasingly shallow and she passed away, peacefully Friday afternoon with her husband and family around her.
It's a bit crazy now making funeral arrangements, making sure my dad is alright and family coming in from out of town to stay. My sister and her son arrived at 2:30 this morning.
I'm not one to get too personal on here but uh y'know... I don't know... I'm here on a regular basis and I had to get it out.
Hello there,
Shawn asked me to send a note to a few of his nearest and dearest to let them know about his mother's situation. She's not well. As all of you know, she was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease about 11 years ago but has probably been living with it for about 15. Her condition has been in a slow decline all these years.
Last week, she fell out of bed in middle of the night and fractured a couple of her ribs. Unfortunately, the trauma made her condition much worse than it already was and she developed pneumonia.
She's in the hospital right now and doctors gave Shawn's dad a couple of options in her treatment: A) give her antibiotics for the pneumonia and she would have less than a 50% chance of recovering and even if she did get over the pneumonia, her condition would be much worse than before her fall; or B) do not give her antibiotics and let nature take its course, where she would probably pass away within a few days. The doctor recommended option B because her physical and mental state has deteriorated so much.
Needless to say, it was a difficult decision but Shawn's dad has had many years to think about it and with the help of his family, chose to go with the doctor's recommendation.
On the more positive side (if there is one), all the health professionals praised Shawn's dad for taking such good care of her for so long. He mainly did it on his own and she remained with him at home and was never institutionalized.
So... Shawn just wanted me to let you know in case you contact him or run into him that that's where his head is right now. He's currently at the hospital taking turns with his siblings being with parents.
I can let you all know if anything changes.
And so there were changes.
Her breathing became increasingly shallow and she passed away, peacefully Friday afternoon with her husband and family around her.
It's a bit crazy now making funeral arrangements, making sure my dad is alright and family coming in from out of town to stay. My sister and her son arrived at 2:30 this morning.
I'm not one to get too personal on here but uh y'know... I don't know... I'm here on a regular basis and I had to get it out.
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Re: My mum 1928 - 2009
I'm so sorry, Shawn. It can't have been easy but you did a great deal to help her.
I'm sure you have a lot of sweet memories. Keep them in mind.
Take care.
I'm sure you have a lot of sweet memories. Keep them in mind.
Take care.
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Condolences, man.
Whatever the circumstances, this sucks.
RIP to your mum.
Whatever the circumstances, this sucks.
RIP to your mum.
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What they said, I'm so sorry to hear this. It's hard to know what else to say in the circumstances, but I wish you and your family all the best.
Take it easy Shawn.
Take it easy Shawn.
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Re: My mum 1928 - 2009
i'm really sorry to hear this too. i don't really know you but i hope that you know my message is genuine when i say how very sorry i am.
lots of love.
xxx
lots of love.
xxx
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Keep your head up, Shawn.
This too shall pass.
This too shall pass.
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Very, very sorry to hear of your loss Shawn. Happy memories/
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Re: My mum 1928 - 2009
My boss and I were talking about this awhile ago. His dad had Alzheimer's for 5-6 years before he died, and he told me he had had his final words with his father years ago so the end wasn't as difficult as it could've been.
My wife and I had a little different circumstances with our moms and they died more suddenly than both of us would've liked. My mom died from pneumonia as a result of leukemia so I've been there. She fell into a coma and I was in the hospital when she died. My dad kissed her very gently and whispered, "Goodbye Johanna." I was glad I was there to see that.
But both my grandmothers lived near us so I've been involved in taking care of folks for an extended time. It's sad, but I know it was a relief to both my parents when they finally died in peace.
But fast or slow, it's never easy to see your mom's last days. It sounds like your dad and you took care of her very well, and even though she was incapacitated, you did what you could.
Sounds like it'll be a couple hard days or weeks ahead, but you guys have gotten this far so you'll make it.
Vaya con dios.
My wife and I had a little different circumstances with our moms and they died more suddenly than both of us would've liked. My mom died from pneumonia as a result of leukemia so I've been there. She fell into a coma and I was in the hospital when she died. My dad kissed her very gently and whispered, "Goodbye Johanna." I was glad I was there to see that.
But both my grandmothers lived near us so I've been involved in taking care of folks for an extended time. It's sad, but I know it was a relief to both my parents when they finally died in peace.
But fast or slow, it's never easy to see your mom's last days. It sounds like your dad and you took care of her very well, and even though she was incapacitated, you did what you could.
Sounds like it'll be a couple hard days or weeks ahead, but you guys have gotten this far so you'll make it.
Vaya con dios.
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Re: My mum 1928 - 2009
All the very best Shawn, that's so very sad
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Re: My mum 1928 - 2009
I'm very sorry for your loss, Shawn and I'm thinking of you and your family and I suppose especially of your dad.
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I'm terribly sorry to hear this, Shawn. You and your family hve my deepest sympathies, and I have all the respect in the world for your dad for doing such a good job for such a long time.
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I lost my mother last July, she died alone in a hospital several hundred miles from me. I know
your pain Shaun. At the very least, your mother had family and loved ones with her.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
your pain Shaun. At the very least, your mother had family and loved ones with her.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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I'm so sorry to here about this. If it's any help, the support I got here and on Mojo made a huge difference when my dad died. Everyone here feels some of your pain and in the middles of the night when your family are sleeping you can come here and feel the shared sorrow.
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Sorry to hear it Shawn. Take 'er easy, bub.
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Re: My mum 1928 - 2009
Sad news. You have my sympathies and condolences.
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I'm so sorry Shawn. Although your mother is now out of the terrible deterioration she was going through, that is scant consolation for the devasting emotional loss and sadness you must now be feeling.
I wish you all the best.
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I wish you all the best.
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I'm so sorry to hear this. I'm sure the next days will be tough, but I know you'll get through it. It's never easy, and everybody goes through this at some point. (Thank god she never had to see you die.) I hope you can be there for your dad. He must be going through hell too. But it sounds like he made the right decision. It's going to be all right.
Keep in there, you have a bunch of friends on your side.
All the best,
Jim
Keep in there, you have a bunch of friends on your side.
All the best,
Jim
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