16 weeks...

in reality, all of this has been a total load of old bollocks
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16 weeks...

Postby The Dríver » 16 Jun 2020, 11:36

... is a long time.

I've kept quiet about this on the all-snooping Facebook, but in the relative anonimity of here I can mention it. 16 weeks is how long it is since i last saw my wife, as she was getting much needed winter sun in the Canary Islands. I was due to go out in March for a week and we would come home together. Covid screwed that up. We had faith at the time that the government would organise the repatriation flights, but they screwed us over by not arranging any. There have been no practical options for a solo traveller.

We have had 5 return flights booked, all of which have been cancelled. The only consolation is that on the entire island there have only been 46 cases and none of them fatal, so arguably she's still getting sunshine and less chance of infection. We're very much a self-contained unit - both have lost both parents, and don't have any family nearby - and whilst a planned separation when she's getting her vitamin D is fine (not least because it's peppered with weekend trips when I visit) the inability to be together at all and the uncertainty over when that will end is frustrating as hell. It's unbelievably tough at times.

We have a flight booked for 1 August. We still have no idea if it will happen but we can hope. I'm sincerely hoping that the lockdown measures put in place across Europe have been sufficient to control this virus, because if there is a second wave and restrictions are reimposed, well, I can't bear to think about it.

I'm not posting this for attention; it's more about catharsis. I won't talk about it on Facebook - my wife is an very private person, and I respect that - but as I said there's some anonimity here, but not letting it out somewhere is like a pressure cooker with no release valve.

The recent BLM stuff has been, absurdly, a positive thing because it has given us something to feel positive about. It's invigorating to see so much coming out into the open and for the first time in a long time there's a degree of hope about something. At the same time, for me currently it's more a case of Black Wives Matter.

So if you see a weird post on FB or if I snap or seem out of sorts you'll understand why. Normal service will be resumed eventually.

Stay safe everyone.
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Re: 16 weeks...

Postby Minnie the Minx » 16 Jun 2020, 11:46

Andrew- I’m speechless. I can’t begin to imagine.
I sincerely hope that you are reunited soon.
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Re: 16 weeks...

Postby Footy » 16 Jun 2020, 12:03

What Minnie said.
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Re: 16 weeks...

Postby The Prof » 16 Jun 2020, 12:44

On a technical note, is she in a hotel being charged every night? or does insurance cover stuff like this?

Hope you're reunited soon.

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Re: 16 weeks...

Postby The Dríver » 16 Jun 2020, 13:31

Minnie the Minx wrote:Andrew- I’m speechless. I can’t begin to imagine.
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The Prof wrote:On a technical note, is she in a hotel being charged every night? or does insurance cover stuff like this?

Thankfully we have our own little flat, so accommodation isn't a problem. Two sets of household bills to manage, but a proportion of that would need to be paid anyway. Extra cost I could do without, yes, but not enough to bankrupt me.
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Postby The Prof » 16 Jun 2020, 13:35

Ah!

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Re: 16 weeks...

Postby The Dríver » 16 Jun 2020, 13:40

yep, better than if we were renting. On the downside, because it is only for holiday purposes there's no internet connection and precious few English TV channels on TV she is bouncing off the walls there sometimes. Less of a problem now that lockdown has lifted and she can actually get out and about.
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Re: 16 weeks...

Postby trans-chigley express » 16 Jun 2020, 13:53

That sounds tough, Andrew. 16 weeks and counting is an awful long time to be apart. I hope you can be together soon.

I feel lucky to have got off pretty lightly throughout the pandemic. No full on lockdown, my family are with me, our health is good and I still have a job. Many others have not been so fortunate including some close friends so I count my blessings and take nothing for granted.

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Postby Belle Lettre » 16 Jun 2020, 14:29

I'm so sorry for your plight Andrew. Hope the situation is eased soon x
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Postby der Freiherr » 16 Jun 2020, 15:26

Man, that sounds like the pits! Hang in there, hopefully something will shake loose soon.
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Re: 16 weeks...

Postby Jumper K » 16 Jun 2020, 16:08

After 16 weeks at home with Mrs JKB can we facilitate a swap in circumstances? Seriously, condolences Andrew. Hoping you are reunited soon.

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Hope you are back together soon.

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Re: 16 weeks...

Postby Six String » 16 Jun 2020, 18:39

Sorry to hear of your troubles Andrew. Sixteen weeks, jeez. That's a long time. Hope things work out in August.
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Re: 16 weeks...

Postby Diamond Dog » 17 Jun 2020, 15:48

I do remember you mentioning it quite early on Andy but didn't realise it was still ongoing..... jeez man.... tough stuff. Hope you get to see eachother soon, my man.
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Postby C » 17 Jun 2020, 20:12

That is really tough Andy - I am very sorry to hear about your position.

I hope the situation eases and things get sorted for you both soon





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Re: 16 weeks...

Postby harvey k-tel » 19 Jun 2020, 12:40

I can only echo others' sentiments, Andy. My wife spent a month in Kenya a few years ago and that was the longest we'd ever been apart. That was tough enough - I can't imagine 16+ weeks away from each other. Take care, man, and I hope you're reunited as soon as possible.
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Postby kath » 19 Jun 2020, 20:30

ohhh man. that's hard. here's hoping for a happy reunion as soon as possible.

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Postby LMG » 20 Jun 2020, 09:44

Very sorry to hear that, Andy. I hope you are both bearing up ok and weathering the ups and downs (to mix metaphors).
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Re: 16 weeks...

Postby andymacandy » 20 Jun 2020, 14:43

Like Andy, I knew the circumstances but wasnt sure how or if it had resolved itself.
At least you both know you are both safe.
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Re: 16 weeks...

Postby The Dríver » 21 Jun 2020, 10:32

Thanks folks for your kind words. It makes the load a little lighter having just got it out there.

We have missed both of our birthdays, and next weekend is our 20th wedding anniversary. It's gutting.
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