"I'm so proud of you!"

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"I'm so proud of you!"

Postby Samoan » 10 Jan 2019, 12:46

Why do folk say that or write that to people, say in the public/media eye when they have had absolutely No input into that person's achievement(s) or indeed may never have met them in the flesh ?
I see a lot of it on line and it sits all wrong with me. It's a sub-type of virtue signalling isn't it and it don't impress me much.

That said, for sure a parent would express pride in their child's (of any age) achievement(s) as they necessarily had a role to play but what the heck with this Stranger Pride expression thing ?
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Re: "I'm so proud of you!"

Postby Sneelock » 10 Jan 2019, 16:20

I blame social media. Social Media has many of us believing that people actually give a shit what they have to say about practically everything.
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Re: "I'm so proud of you!"

Postby Samoan » 10 Jan 2019, 16:38

Very likely but in 'real' life too.
What vexes me is folk seemingly wanting to grab some of the glory of another person's hard work.

Or maybe it's just plain old sycophantic billing and cooing.
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Re: "I'm so proud of you!"

Postby Still Baron » 10 Jan 2019, 16:40

Samoan wrote:Very likely but in 'real' life too.
What vexes me is folk seemingly wanting to grab some of the glory of another person's hard work.

Or maybe it's just plain old sycophantic billing and cooing.


I think you’re reading the word “proud” more literally than the offending speakers intend.
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Re: "I'm so proud of you!"

Postby GoogaMooga » 10 Jan 2019, 16:43

Can it only be used towards one's children? What about relatives, partners, friends, anyone close?
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Re: "I'm so proud of you!"

Postby The Modernist » 10 Jan 2019, 16:56

GoogaMooga wrote:Can it only be used towards one's children? What about relatives, partners, friends, anyone close?


Not allowed. You'd be arrested.

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Re: "I'm so proud of you!"

Postby GoogaMooga » 10 Jan 2019, 18:40

The Modernist wrote:
GoogaMooga wrote:Can it only be used towards one's children? What about relatives, partners, friends, anyone close?


Not allowed. You'd be arrested.


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Re: "I'm so proud of you!"

Postby Charlie O. » 11 Jan 2019, 03:58

Still Baron wrote:
Samoan wrote:Very likely but in 'real' life too.
What vexes me is folk seemingly wanting to grab some of the glory of another person's hard work.

Or maybe it's just plain old sycophantic billing and cooing.


I think you’re reading the word “proud” more literally than the offending speakers intend.

Indeed! I see nothing at all wrong with it.
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Re: "I'm so proud of you!"

Postby caramba » 11 Jan 2019, 08:30

GoogaMooga wrote:
Can it only be used towards one's children? What about relatives, partners, friends, anyone close?




While not familiar usage to me, I thlnk the OP was kvetching about the word/expression being hijacked by third-parties who did not personally know the subject they were expressing "pride" in.

Either way, I'm proud of him/her for bringing an issue I'd previously been blissfully unaware of to my attention.

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Re: "I'm so proud of you!"

Postby GoogaMooga » 11 Jan 2019, 08:38

:D
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Re: "I'm so proud of you!"

Postby GoogaMooga » 11 Jan 2019, 08:39

Whatever is the case, you can always get away with a little "I'm happy for you".
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Re: "I'm so proud of you!"

Postby NMB » 12 Jan 2019, 13:50

GoogaMooga wrote:Whatever is the case, you can always get away with a little "I'm happy for you".


No that just comes across as “yeah, whatever”. “I’m proud of you” means that you think the person has done something significant and/or impressive, i.e. that they’ve done something to be proud of. I don’t see anything wrong with it.
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Re: "I'm so proud of you!"

Postby Samoan » 12 Jan 2019, 14:07

NMB wrote:
GoogaMooga wrote:Whatever is the case, you can always get away with a little "I'm happy for you".


No that just comes across as “yeah, whatever”. “I’m proud of you” means that you think the person has done something significant and/or impressive, i.e. that they’ve done something to be proud of. I don’t see anything wrong with it.

I differ.
If the person expressing pride has made no contribution to the achievement, they've no business saying so.
My preference in such a situation is to say "You should be very proud of yourself."
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Re: "I'm so proud of you!"

Postby NMB » 12 Jan 2019, 14:30

Samoan wrote:
NMB wrote:
GoogaMooga wrote:Whatever is the case, you can always get away with a little "I'm happy for you".


No that just comes across as “yeah, whatever”. “I’m proud of you” means that you think the person has done something significant and/or impressive, i.e. that they’ve done something to be proud of. I don’t see anything wrong with it.

I differ.
If the person expressing pride has made no contribution to the achievement, they've no business saying so.
My preference in such a situation is to say "You should be very proud of yourself."


Well pedantically yes but it’s a widely used and accepted expression.
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Re: "I'm so proud of you!"

Postby GoogaMooga » 12 Jan 2019, 14:59

I meant you could tone it down with a compromise "I'm happy for you"
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Re: "I'm so proud of you!"

Postby kath » 12 Jan 2019, 15:05

i guess it depends on context. the only people i remember saying that phrase to me were my ma and reap. they were clearly coming from a place of love and support, after i had made it through something tough.

but if i had heard it in any kind of professional capacity, from a coworker or a boss? i would take it as condescension. my immediate thought would be, noooo, yer not my ma, fucquesplat.

"great job" or some such would work.

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Re: "I'm so proud of you!"

Postby C » 12 Jan 2019, 16:41

I'm proud of you for starting this thread lass

Well done




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Re: "I'm so proud of you!"

Postby Samoan » 12 Jan 2019, 16:55

Well don't go overdoing it.
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Re: "I'm so proud of you!"

Postby Deebank » 12 Jan 2019, 16:59

I remember Mr Rogers of Mr Rogers Neighbourhood fame saying it a lot.

Was it a thing with him?
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Re: "I'm so proud of you!"

Postby Six String » 12 Jan 2019, 17:01

The phrase is sort of saying I approve of you or your actions.