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Postby pcqgod » 10 May 2018, 16:37

Did you/would you want to have a traditional wedding ceremony, walking down an aisle, vows in front of clergyman, people throwing rice, guys in tuxes with carnations, gals in frilly gowns, wedding march playing on an organ? Or did you/would you want to have a no-frills ceremony in front of a justice of the peace? Did you have, would you want, or have you ever attended an offbeat, theme wedding, like say, wedding on water-skis, or on top of a mountain, or participants wearing Starfleet costumes and reciting vows in Klingon? Or maybe just in front of an Elvis impersonator in Vegas?
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Postby sloopjohnc » 10 May 2018, 17:25

We had ours at a bed and breakfast in Half Moon Bay with a lawn area for the ceremony and a large deck area for the reception. The B&B had a really nice restaurant and bar on street level. We had about 125 people attend, about equal from both sides. Most of my family and friends were local, my bride's were from all over the place. My bride and her maid of honor stayed overnight before the wedding at the B&B and I drove over that morning.

It was on the coast, which can be a little dicey, weather-wise, in No. California, even though it was late May. We got lucky.

Our parents kicked in a little, but we paid for most of it. We both picked a couple songs we liked but I wasn't a music geek dick about it with the DJ. We hired a rent-a-preacher for the nuptials and we hired a flower person who was a friend of the restaurant owner/caterer to do the flowers. I think we spent $2,500. I got a little worried when my friends rushed the bartender (beer and wine only) and began serving people. We both figured if folks wanted hard liquor, they could order from the bar adjacent to the restaurant, which stayed open for locals.

We got money back on our drink deposit, so no one was that bad.

For the honeymoon night, we drove down to Santa Cruz and stayed at a hotel near the beach. We went to Seattle, Victoria BC and Vancouver for a week for the longer honeymoon. Cheapskate that I am, I wouldn't go up the space needle in Seattle because it cost too much.

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Postby Pansy Puff » 10 May 2018, 17:44

No church for us. All a bit hypocritical for two 'devout' atheists.

We got married in a restaurant. There's a restaurant in Manchester (it was Heathcotes when we were married) built where the original registry office was, on Jackson's Row, and so it still has a license. 50 friends and family, a delightful meal and music hand picked by me and themed: Northern Soul hour, rock n roll hour etc
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Postby Dr Markus » 10 May 2018, 17:46

Whatever she wants, because I couldn't give a fuck. Be nice if it was in a church and catholic, it would lessen the chance of my ma having heart attack.
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Postby sloopjohnc » 10 May 2018, 17:54

Dr Markus wrote:Whatever she wants, because I couldn't give a fuck.


I picked a few songs, made sure the groomsmen picked up their rented tuxes and got them flasks as my gift. That's all I did besides agree to stuff and ask what it cost.
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Re: Weddings

Postby hippopotamus » 10 May 2018, 17:55

I quite like weddings that show the personality of the couple, and sometimes I find weddings that seem to be all about looking Magazine Perfect a little bit sad. I'm sure there's a line between charmingly unique and Klingon unique.

I've not been to any particularly strange ones... though I've been two 2 "scout" weddings, where the theme was sort of "we're both scouts". One was in a big scout hall. Another was just out in a field and everyone had to camp. I went to one 2 years ago (I was the plus one, so it wasn't friends) where everyone was in very lavish costume of no particular theme, and everyone had their face painted. The bride and groom wore turquoise, embroidered silk outfits, and peacock headdresses. The groom had been a reality TV star, and I guess liked a bit of showmanship.

One of my cousins is a proper hippy. They had their wedding on the beach, where we drew a giant heart in the sand, and that was . where the ceremony took place. Everyone was barefoot. My family made the vegan lentil wraps for the wedding food.

My brother and sister in law ended up having 3 weddings. The parents of the bride and groom are good friends, and were debating where the wedding would be held. The two Mothers decided it would be one wedding in Germany, one wedding in South Africa, and were very happy with their compromise, never mind the couple's wishes. Then for legal reasons they ended up having the official marriage signing business in Scotland, and that got widely out of hand. The result was 3 wedding dresses (3 bridesmaid dresses for me), and a Scottish themed wedding, a German wedding in Dirndls and German national dress, and an African wedding. I loved it.

One of my best friends is helping me plan her wedding which she has decided must be a cross between a traditional Scottish wedding and the dance sequence from American in Paris. So we'll see how that works out.

I don't know for myself. But I'm not sure how I can top my brother's.
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Re: Weddings

Postby Dr Markus » 10 May 2018, 18:02

hippopotamus wrote:
One of my best friends is helping me plan her wedding


She's helping "you", plan her wedding? :P
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Postby gash on ignore » 10 May 2018, 18:10

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Re: Weddings

Postby pcqgod » 10 May 2018, 19:06

I probably would prefer something on the traditional side, if not overly formal Probably would want to integrate some music into the ceremony, but nothing over the top. I remember my oldest brother had someone sing at his first wedding and there was screeching feedback from the microphone. I was dying.
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Re: Weddings

Postby Positive Passion » 10 May 2018, 19:53

Mine was in front of the registrar but in a very nice building in Westminster. We had the ceremony and the party afterwards in the same place. We set the place up "in the round" so were literally surroubded by our friends.

Generally though I like weddings.

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Postby souphound » 10 May 2018, 20:06

My wedding was a tiny affair. Me in a black suit. My bride in a beautiful mid-thigh dress that she had designed and sewed herself (she was and probably still is a great seamstress. Quickly in front of some official (don't think he was actually a judge, but I could be wrong.)

Then we went to a beautiful park in the rich area of town, for pictures. There was a greenhouse there so we had planned to take the pics inside if the weather was bad. It was warm and sunny, early August. We decided to take some pics inside anyway since it was so nice. Boy was it hot in there. Full-sweaty hot.

We then got in our cars and went into Old Montreal for a nice meal to celebrate. All told, there were eleven of us altogether - including 1 common friend.

After that, we went into the States for the honeymoon. First stop in Vermont for the night, but it was quite amusing to see the expression on the border guard's face when he saw our fully packed car (the plan was to go camping in Virginia) but especially when he saw that my wife had flowers embroidered in her hair!

We then headed towards Virginia where it rained and rained and rained non-stop - not ideal for camping. So (sorry Anna), we ended up heading back up North and spent a few days in Boston before returning home.

I'd do it all this way again, but I'm out of the game now, so, forget about it.
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Postby sloopjohnc » 10 May 2018, 21:24

pcqgod wrote:I probably would prefer something on the traditional side, if not overly formal Probably would want to integrate some music into the ceremony, but nothing over the top. I remember my oldest brother had someone sing at his first wedding and there was screeching feedback from the microphone. I was dying.


I had a friend's niece sing at his. She was about 12 and I had to get up from the table and leave she was so bad and I was trying not to laugh.

It was a Jewish wedding. They're great.

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Postby Positive Passion » 10 May 2018, 21:38

sloopjohnc wrote:
pcqgod wrote:I probably would prefer something on the traditional side, if not overly formal Probably would want to integrate some music into the ceremony, but nothing over the top. I remember my oldest brother had someone sing at his first wedding and there was screeching feedback from the microphone. I was dying.


I had a friend's niece sing at his. She was about 12 and I had to get up from the table and leave she was so bad and I was trying not to laugh.

It was a Jewish wedding. They're great.

Mazel tov.


One of the best weddings i have been to was a jewish wedding - they served 6 kinds of martini and you have to try them all.....

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Postby Belle Lettre » 10 May 2018, 22:37

One of the best was a Highland wedding. Pipes, ceilidh, etc. But they were divorced within two years.
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Postby sloopjohnc » 10 May 2018, 22:38

Belle Lettre wrote:One of the best was a Highland wedding. Pipes, ceilidh, etc. But they were divorced within two years.


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Postby The Red Heifer » 10 May 2018, 22:58

Ours was traditional, old church and hotel reception, my wife is very strong on the way things should be done, and likes to respect the "traditional" way of the wedding (she insisted "obey" appear in her vows), so our service had all the standards.

What made it a fucking ordeal was her parents Ma & Pa Idiot, who fought with her every step of the way on everything. Luckily they live in New Zealand and my mum, who has gone through marrying off 3 of my sisters and is of the firm belief that the wedding is about the bride, was on hand to convince them that the way they were behaving was a bit unusual.

It was just little things, like when you run out of the reception into the night and disappear from the event, her mum charged after us to make us come back and help clean up. Because she hadnt been to a wedding in 2 decades previous and had no idea of the traditions of these events my wife (and her daughter by the fucking way) held dear. Luckily, again, my mum saw this and blew up like a hand grenade :lol:

Also when getting the dress, both mothers went along, and if my mum didn't go, given her mum's crippling fear of exposed female flesh I would've expected the wedding dress to be a hessian sack. Luckily (again!) mum saved the day.

I won't forget, ever, the fact that her parents very openly called her a bitch because of how she was acting before the wedding "making it all about her". She was actually beyond accommodating to those shitheads and I've been biting my tongue for 4 years, and I see them Saturday night, then fly into Sydney just after my daughters 1st birthday party, even though they had the option to fly in Friday, but deliberately chose not to. My tongue might be loosened shortly.


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Postby sloopjohnc » 10 May 2018, 23:00

Violent Phlegm wrote:Ours was traditional, old church and hotel reception, my wife is very strong on the way things should be done, and likes to respect the "traditional" way of the wedding (she insisted "obey" appear in her vows), so our service had all the standards.

What made it a fucking ordeal was her parents Ma & Pa Idiot, who fought with her every step of the way on everything. Luckily they live in New Zealand and my mum, who has gone through marrying off 3 of my sisters and is of the firm belief that the wedding is about the bride, was on hand to convince them that the way they were behaving was a bit unusual.

It was just little things, like when you run out of the reception into the night and disappear from the event, her mum charged after us to make us come back and help clean up. Because she hadnt been to a wedding in 2 decades previous and had no idea of the traditions of these events my wife (and her daughter by the fucking way) held dear. Luckily, again, my mum saw this and blew up like a hand grenade :lol:

Also when getting the dress, both mothers went along, and if my mum didn't go, given her mum's crippling fear of exposed female flesh I would've expected the wedding dress to be a hessian sack. Luckily (again!) mum saved the day.

I won't forget, ever, the fact that her parents very openly called her a bitch because of how she was acting before the wedding "making it all about her". She was actually beyond accommodating to those shitheads and I've been biting my tongue for 4 years, and I see them Saturday night, then fly into Sydney just after my daughters 1st birthday party, even though they had the option to fly in Friday, but deliberately chose not to. My tongue might be loosened shortly.


Sorry about that guys, once I started I couldn't stop.


The "Ma & Pa Idiot" kinda set the stage.
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Postby Quaco » 10 May 2018, 23:07

hippopotamus wrote:I quite like weddings that show the personality of the couple, and sometimes I find weddings that seem to be all about looking Magazine Perfect a little bit sad. I'm sure there's a line between charmingly unique and Klingon unique.

:)

We did ours in an old Chinese restaurant (since closed) with Bent Fabric deejaying, ~20 people total, tons of Indian food, and the bride walking in to "Procession" by Queen. It was probably the happiest day of my life, and very much OUR kind of thing. No one else would have had the same one. I encourage people to get creative and so something that they personally love. It's not that hard!
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Postby bobzilla77 » 10 May 2018, 23:08

We went to New Orleans & got about a dozen family & close friends to come with us. We found a bar on Bourbon St. that would rent us a balcony room and make the food at regular private-party prices rather than "wedding prices", which instantly made the whole thing affordable. The mamager had just gotten married herself & was pissed off at "wedding prices" so she gave us a deal, and also told us where to get flowers and a cake, having done all the work of finding the best place just a month earlier.

We hired a second line band and a couple of stilt-walkers and paraded through the French Quarter with a police escort. That whole thing probably cost us $800, less than a lot of people spend on a crappy wedding band.

When we kissed, the band struck up, and the stilt walkers started dancing, and then EVERYBODY on the whole street was dancing. It was pretty fucking cool.

I like the idea of having a big party and having it be what YOU want... a celebration that reflects the people getting married more than typical American wedding traditions. We didn't smash cake in each others faces or have me fumble with her garters or any of that stupid shit. We had singing, dancing, food, alcohol, and our favorite people. I like all that stuff, any day of the week. When our time was up, we emptied the keg into a bucket and walked around the French quarter drinking out of the damn bucket and singing songs until the cops made us call it a night. I wouldn't have had it any other way.
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