Fonz wrote:Yeah, I agree. To compare a simple ‘hug’ with something more unpleasant doesn’t do anyone any favours.
Hugging is one of those potentially awkward social situations where it’s not always clear just how much to hug/hold. There’s plenty of scope for misinterpretation.
Yeah, let's be clear, anyone who's not an intimate saying "I'd like to see you naked" or giving you unwanted hugs is creepyville. And when it's your boss (Charlie Rose or the Pixar guy) or in a work situation that is abuse of the work relationship.
I also think there's a "ooh he did what"? frenzy going on - the media are whipping it up for their own purposes and there's no shortage of us taking it up. Al Franken case in point.
But on the whole if it stops real abuses going on, better out in the open, no?
The thing about 'hugs' is they are hard to avoid if you don't want to appear aloof or antisocial/unfriendly.
I was never a 'hugger' as a young man-my family, although very affectionate and loving with each other, just didn't go around giving vague friends and acquaintances hugs, and so when I left home into the wider world and random friends would just greet you with a big hug and often that mwah mwah air kiss thing, it often made me feel a bit awkward, even if it wasn't always unwelcome. After all, I am a friendly bloke, and I don't want folks thinking I'm a misery.
It's been very rare that a 'hug' has involved a grope from the other person.
If women are having to deal with that sort of thing regularly, well, that's grim, and I've no doubt it happens a lot.