Mrs Slider wrote:
martha wrote:The ethical slut defines slut as "a person of any gender who has the courage to lead life according to the radical proposition that sex is nice and pleasure is good for you."
What do you mean by gender? How is enjoying sex and pleasure radical and courageous for men?
Once again you're ascribing to me something that doesn't belong to me. I wasn't responsible for the inclusion of the word slut in the safe sex sluts organization I joined as a volunteer that had been founded four years earlier. Neither am I responsible for the definition given by the authors of the ethical slut, a book on polyamory which I did not write and have merely read and don't enjoy as much as I do other books on polyamory.
The meaning I ascribed to the word slut was that it was synonymous with Stud, or. a person who has had many sexual encounters and is knowledgeable of sex. There's nothing inherently pejorative in it to me.
As far as how I define gender that is an entirely different issue. I wrote my honor's thesis on the subject. And unlike the term slut it is far too involved a concept for me to engage adequately within the four to seven minutes I typically have available to spend on a music board whilst typing on my phone which incorrectly auto-corrects what I write into a mess of incoherant gobblydgook that has to be continuously retyped, but I'll try. I studied under Professor Judith Butler. Butler considers gender to be a construct...a performative act. I think my definition is not entirely out of alignment with hers. I would say that gender, as an objective natural thing, does not exist, rather it is completely a social construction, a fiction, a performative act.