Via school, I have a female friend who presents as male. She's not necessarily trying to pass as male. But she dresses and grooms herself in a way that is easily described as boyish. Including refusing to wax the hair on her upper lip. She's petite. Former military. Speaks in a lower register. Initial glance, one might view her as a young dude. I know I was unsure for the first few minutes. She is who she is.
I've known that I worry about her when it comes to public restrooms. Will someone assault her for using the women's facilities? I've never raised the question, because it feels to me like I'm pointing out her differentness.
One of the many things I enjoy about her is she can be quite direct. So I've learned that, yes, it can be dicey to be her.
Apparently, there's times she's made to feel uncomfortable when she enters a public restroom.
I don't know a reasonable solution for her. I want her to be safe. I want her to be able to be herself. I want it to be a non-issue when she simply needs to relieve herself.