Dilemma solvers welcome -poll
- Minnie the Minx
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Dilemma solvers welcome -poll
I'm throwing this one open because I actually don't have a clue what to do.
Three years ago I bought something on behalf of an acquaintance who asked me to get it for them because they were physically unable to at the time.
I got the items, at substantial personal cost, and afterwards waited for them to cough up the loot. Three weeks in, a mutual friend said they had overheard the person remark that I was so kind to have got it for them without asking for money. I decided to go and see them rather than doing it over the phone and when I got there discovered they had been diagnosed with cancer. At the time, the outlook looked grim and I decided I'd drop it.
Three years on they responsed really well to treatment and they are now looking forward to many more years of life. Whilst pleased, I am thinking bloody hell, I am still out of pocket - by quite a lot.
If I bring it up now, after all this time, 'now you're not dying, can I just mention...'
It doesn't look good, does it?
Should I let it go? Chase it? What would you do?
Three years ago I bought something on behalf of an acquaintance who asked me to get it for them because they were physically unable to at the time.
I got the items, at substantial personal cost, and afterwards waited for them to cough up the loot. Three weeks in, a mutual friend said they had overheard the person remark that I was so kind to have got it for them without asking for money. I decided to go and see them rather than doing it over the phone and when I got there discovered they had been diagnosed with cancer. At the time, the outlook looked grim and I decided I'd drop it.
Three years on they responsed really well to treatment and they are now looking forward to many more years of life. Whilst pleased, I am thinking bloody hell, I am still out of pocket - by quite a lot.
If I bring it up now, after all this time, 'now you're not dying, can I just mention...'
It doesn't look good, does it?
Should I let it go? Chase it? What would you do?
You come at the Queen, you best not miss.
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I'll do it and split the cash 50/50.
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Well - I definitly won't suffer without it. On the other hand, it would be so handy for the emigration process.
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Dr Markus wrote:
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Flower wrote:I just did a google search.
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Depends how skint you are.
If I could afford it I'd just take one for the team.
If I could afford it I'd just take one for the team.
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The Ghost of Christmas Prof wrote:I'll do it and split the cash 50/50.
60/40
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Dr Markus wrote:
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Flower wrote:I just did a google search.
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the hanging monkey wrote:Depends how skint you are.
If I could afford it I'd just take one for the team.
Christ, get you, St Francis of tossing Assisi!
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Dr Markus wrote:
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Flower wrote:I just did a google search.
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Ask if you can borrow the merchandise back and then sit on it and see what happens...
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Snarfyguy wrote:Ask if you can borrow the merchandise back and then sit on it and see what happens...
Long since gone, I'm afraid
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Dr Markus wrote:
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Minnie the Minx wrote:the hanging monkey wrote:Depends how skint you are.
If I could afford it I'd just take one for the team.
Christ, get you, St Francis of tossing Assisi!
I might be a massive wanker but I have my good side.
Have you got that fiver you owe me btw?
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the hanging monkey wrote:Minnie the Minx wrote:the hanging monkey wrote:Depends how skint you are.
If I could afford it I'd just take one for the team.
Christ, get you, St Francis of tossing Assisi!
I might be a massive wanker but I have my good side.
Have you got that fiver you owe me btw?
You'll get it once I find a buyer for my cornea.
You come at the Queen, you best not miss.
Dr Markus wrote:
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Flower wrote:I just did a google search.
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Minnie the Minx wrote:the hanging monkey wrote:Have you got that fiver you owe me btw?
You'll get it once I find a buyer for my cornea.
Hurry up, fivers don't grow on trees you know.
Sheesh, some people.
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myrrhtha wrote:Rereading things a bit... I'm seeing this sentence sort of looming from what you've written:Minnie the Minx wrote:When I got there, discovered they had been diagnosed with cancer. At the time, the outlook looked grim and I decided I'd drop it.
I think maybe the best thing to do is to leave it dropped. Unless you need the loot more than you do the friendship.
This is the thing you see. I was an acquaintance not a friend - they were more a friend of a good pal of mine. They asked me a favour and for whatever reason she totally misinterpreted what I said. I have only seen her once since she got ill!
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myrrhtha wrote:Rereading things a bit... I'm seeing this sentence sort of looming from what you've written:Minnie the Minx wrote:When I got there, discovered they had been diagnosed with cancer. At the time, the outlook looked grim and I decided I'd drop it.
I think maybe the best thing to do is to leave it dropped. Unless you need the loot more than you do the friendship.
That's what I thought too. Then again, you described them as an aquaintance. It's your money and you are entitled to it. If what the other person will think doesn't bother you then get your money back.
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I suggest you seek legal advice on this. Do you know any good lawyers ?
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NEVER buy drugs for an 'acquaintance' without getting the money up front.
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Harvey K-Tel wrote:NEVER buy drugs for an 'acquaintance' without getting the money up front.
Im thinking of sending her an xmas card
'Hope your xmas time is jolly
you're going to live, so SEND ME LOLLY'
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Harvey K-Tel wrote:NEVER buy drugs for an 'acquaintance' without getting the money up front.
You beat me to it.
GoogaMooga wrote: The further away from home you go, the greater the risk of getting stuck there.
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Snarfyguy wrote:Harvey K-Tel wrote:NEVER buy drugs for an 'acquaintance' without getting the money up front.
You beat me to it.
*taps nose*
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Nothing as exciting as drugs Im afraid.
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If it was me, I'd just let it drop. Mainly 'cause I hate conflict .
But seeing as it was just an acquaintance and you are leaving the country soon..................
But seeing as it was just an acquaintance and you are leaving the country soon..................
Then Mick asked 'Would it make me a class traitor if I banged Thatcher?'