Good luck. On a similar subject, an old friend of mine who I visited recently in Sacramento wrote a blog about how he had started drinking again, and was enjoying doing so in moderation. When I read it, I realized how crazy his story is, and how I have managed to be in touch with him for all the biggest changes in his life.
I was friends with his older half-brother (who went to another high school, but were in high school when we met). He was 9 when I met him, just shortly after his mom had remarried and moved him in with his new family. At the time I just thought, OK nice kid, but mostly ignored him 'cause he was the younger brother. But apparently it was a really traumatic time, and he started smoking pot and drinking a disturbingly short time after (like in excess by age 12).
Then, when his brother got married, I attended the wedding and saw him again. Now he was 16, and had just recently gone through a live-in treatment program and was completely sober. And so he stayed for 30 years. The second time, the age difference still precluded us from being friends, but I had more in common with him, including music taste. But I dropped out of touch with both him and his brother.
We got back in touch about 10 years ago, and then I realized I had more in common with him (very easy-going, similar music taste as I said, now a baseball fan as his older brother never was and never will be) than with his brother. So we became Facebook friends, and after talking about it pretty much the whole time, I finally visited him and went to a minor league baseball game about a year ago. Yes, we each had a few beers.
In the blog he wrote, he talks about the 4 most important stages of his life being - child thrown into turmoil, teenager in recovery, married sober adult with children, then finally married not-totally-sober adult with children starting to move out and live on their own.
I just find it amusing that I've seen him, basically three times in the last 40 years - and have pretty much caught a big life change for him every single one of those times.
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sloopjohnc wrote:Aslan has some good credenitals - got his BA from Santa Clara, a Jesuit school and his Masters from Harvard and PhD from Santa Barbara, a surfing school.
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