MORE random stuff about your day

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Re: MORE random stuff about your day

Postby sloopjohnc » 01 Nov 2017, 16:04

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sloopjohnc wrote:It seems that recently when friends are having trouble with their marriages, they contact me and want to have lunch. A friend I've known since elementary school emailed me last week and we had lunch at a local place near his house. A couple weeks ago it was another old friend.

It seems his 14 year-old daughter has become dismissive and contemptuous of him and his wife sides with her. He feels alone, doesn't like that his immediate family are treating him like crap and doesn't know what to do. But his family are the most important thing to him and doesn't want to lose them. He cried a few times at lunch over his situation and I felt badly he was in so much pain.

His daughter goes to a prestigious prep school on scholarship and both my buddy and his wife are really smart. He's a freelance writer who writes mainly for Stanford's departments of education and his wife is a digital media producer for a regional metro newspaper. He used to be the rock reviewer and tech columnist for the San Jose Mercury.

He's going over his situation with four best friends, which I didn't know I was even one, to get their take. The guy he consulted with before me was Joel Selvin, longtime rock critic for the SF Chronicle. I'm like the only regular guy of his friends - there's the retired rock critic and author, a media analyst and Harvard Business School guy, a famous food editor and author and me, who's known him the longest.

He tends to be a pretty intense guy and I told him to ease off the pedal. He is putting a lot of pressure on his daughter and talks about "wins," which makes me think he needs to have his way in some of these things. I told him he has to let his daughter, although she's really smart, fuck up. With such an expensive education for his daughter, he's kinda loathe to do that. I had to remind him if he would've listened to his dad and he laughed and said, "No." I feel for the guy.


My friends and I are all hitting our 40s, and this kind of stuff is happening all over the place.

Marriages are becoming tougher and tougher, and many people I know are extremely torn over whether to stay together primarily for the sake of the kids/family, or make a break. Most of them are sticking with it, but with a huge degree of sadness and regret.


I only found out a couple years later that my daughter was very relieved when my wife and I divorced. Because both of our parents had stayed together, I think my wife and I had this fealty towards marriage, thinking it was better for the kids if we were together. I put the kibosh on the marriage because I didn't want the kids to think marriage was a bad thing.

My ex and I get along, but we both try and get along - some couples don't really try and use the kids as bargaining chips. I think that is terrible.
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Re: MORE random stuff about your day

Postby sloopjohnc » 01 Nov 2017, 21:50

I frequent this irreverent sports site, Deadspin, and the commenters are pretty funny. One post they reviewed chain pizza places and one guy wrote:

Yeah only on planet FUCK THIS WEED IS STRONG is Little Caesar’s a preferred dinner choice over Pizza Hut.
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Postby toomanyhatz » 01 Nov 2017, 22:22

...I would say even then. I've never been stoned enough to order Little Caesar's. Or Dominoes.
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Postby the masked man » 01 Nov 2017, 22:35

I'm on holiday this week from my job at the local council. I don't know what to do. I've been on rolling three-month contracts for almost two years now, and it's messing with my head a little. I can't make plans, and I feel a little bit unsettled. But my work is good and I feel more fulfilled in what I do (I work supplying IT support to social workers in Children's Services). Frankly. I feel good about the service I offer and feel I'm making a difference, but it eats at me that it's never permanent.

But even if it comes to an end soon, I'll leave feeling that I've done a good job. I need this to hang on to.

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Re: MORE random stuff about your day

Postby sloopjohnc » 01 Nov 2017, 23:21

toomanyhatz wrote:...I would say even then. I've never been stoned enough to order Little Caesar's. Or Dominoes.


Dominoes has upgraded. I think you'd be surprised.
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Re: MORE random stuff about your day

Postby sloopjohnc » 02 Nov 2017, 15:53

Last night, I got home and my son was all pissed off because his dumb math teacher told him that I had emailed the teacher because Derek's grades were slipping. Derek explained why his grades were lower because of missing assignments when he was sick the week before. I made a deal with my son - he has to come to me if he's having problems and I won't go to his teachers. If I hear from his teachers that he's doing badly, then we'll have problems.

And the dumbass teacher told my son I was coming into the class to observe, which was never mentioned.

I just emailed the teacher and nicely told him to shut his big yap and keep our emails between me and him.
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Postby never/ever » 04 Nov 2017, 00:48

the masked man wrote:I'm on holiday this week from my job at the local council. I don't know what to do. I've been on rolling three-month contracts for almost two years now, and it's messing with my head a little. I can't make plans, and I feel a little bit unsettled. But my work is good and I feel more fulfilled in what I do (I work supplying IT support to social workers in Children's Services). Frankly. I feel good about the service I offer and feel I'm making a difference, but it eats at me that it's never permanent.

But even if it comes to an end soon, I'll leave feeling that I've done a good job. I need this to hang on to.


Fingers crossed Andrew. That kind of uncertainty (so close to Christmas) is terrible.

Since you may have got some time, maybe you could do the 90s Cup next month?
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Postby Minnie Mincepie » 04 Nov 2017, 08:04





My big brother is getting married today! I'm beside meself with excitement!
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Postby never/ever » 04 Nov 2017, 09:20

poor sod Congratulations!
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Postby Belle Lettre » 04 Nov 2017, 11:34

Have a great day!
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Postby sloopjohnc » 09 Nov 2017, 21:54

I've been sick with the flu this week. The worst on Tuesday.

On Tuesday around 5 pm, I got a text from my ex saying that the woman she left the kids' dog with had lost Nikko. 5 pm is the height of the rush hour in the SF Bay Area and the freeways are packed until 7:30 at night and the place the dog ran away from was in the So. Bay. I had taken all my medicine for the night and was about to hunker down but I knew my daughter would be miserable so I called her and I told her I'd help her look for Nikko. An hour later, we get to the neighborhood and the people who lost the dog try explaining. I'm really grumpy when I'm sick and I said, "Save it. I haven't got a whole lot of sympathy for you right now," especially with my daughter crying the whole way down.

We walk the streets yelling the dog's name for another hour and I get a text from an animal shelter that they found our dog and located me through the microchip. We get back to the people's house and tell them and they ask me if they want a ride. I say, "You're joking, right? We'll go ourselves." The plan was pick up the dog and take Nikko home.

We get there and it is our dog. My daughter's overjoyed. I had told her on the way down that I had good vibes and had good luck this way and she said I didn't put enough good karma out in the world to say that. Geez, thanks.

We can't pick her up though because there's no manager there. The people who had taken care of the dog had driven to the shelter too and tried apologizing again. I said, "Too soon," and my daughter and I took off. I finally got home around 8:30 and was completely dead.

The dog sitter worked with my ex and she texted my daughter and said she's crying about what happened. I told my daughter to text my ex with, "She should feel lucky she's not in childcare."

Fuck 'em.
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Postby souphound » 10 Nov 2017, 17:22

It's cold here today. With the wind chill factor, it feels like -18c. There's a smidgen of snow on the ground. Wore a tuque to go to work this morning (no, not just a tuque!! :x )
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Postby Minnie Mincepie » 10 Nov 2017, 19:07

It's the last night of our UK trip. It was the 20thh anniversary of my Mum's death today so me and the husband went to the Estonian Club at midday - they opened up especially. It was ace. They got out all the old photos in this rotting but beautiful Victorian building and we got several vodkas and some Estonian beer. A load of pissed up Latvian pensioners came in and got tanked on rum nearby. Now we're in bed at the airport hotel eating cheese butties from Spar with small bottles of wine and we're watching the snooker on a huge TV screen. Fucking bliss.
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Postby Butch Manly » 10 Nov 2017, 19:10

Minnie the Minx wrote:It was the 20th anniversary of my Mum's death today so me and the husband went to the Estonian Club at midday - they opened up especially. It was ace.


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Postby Belle Lettre » 10 Nov 2017, 19:38

"This for the match " x
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Postby sloopjohnc » 10 Nov 2017, 22:24

I have to fly to Denver tomorrow with a stop in Vegas to supervise booth setup on Sunday. Today, my boss emails me and tells me we need HDMI cable and screws for video monitors.I spent half the day looking for them. I leave Tuesday. Guess what he's doing today and this weekend while I work?

Golfing.

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Postby Rayge » 11 Nov 2017, 10:03

fingers crossed, many a slip, don't tempt fate, etc, but her Thanginess and I have just had an offer accepted on a house.
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Postby Thang-y » 11 Nov 2017, 10:54

Rayge wrote:fingers crossed, many a slip, don't tempt fate, etc, but her Thanginess and I have just had an offer accepted on a house.


500 years old, so it's not exactly new.

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Postby yomptepi » 12 Nov 2017, 13:54

Rayge wrote:fingers crossed, many a slip, don't tempt fate, etc, but her Thanginess and I have just had an offer accepted on a house.


I hope it goes through. Is it near where you are now?
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Postby Rayge » 12 Nov 2017, 13:57

yomptepi wrote:
Rayge wrote:fingers crossed, many a slip, don't tempt fate, etc, but her Thanginess and I have just had an offer accepted on a house.


I hope it goes through. Is it near where you are now?


It's in the same village: we would be moving from the most southerly old house to the most northerly one. Maybe half a mile by road.
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